Making a Stand…Over and Over Again

Today. I don’t know what to think of it. It started badly…I couldn’t stay sleeping…I kept flopping and moving and checking the clock and praying it would say that I had hours of sleeptime left (nope). I have two alarms that go off (yes, I’m paranoid…why do you ask?)…which was good this morning, because I didn’t even hear the first one, and it gets louder over time (I had my pillow over my head again. I should draw that. It happens often enough). I was physically exhausted, but only a little sore from the hike (good!), and mentally wasted. I got myself up and out and cleaned up and functioning, and the morning was still painful, just one of those mornings where you’d probably be OK if you had like 2 more hours of sleep, but you don’t. Have. That. I cried on the way to work. Something set me off. It’s hormones again…they seem to hate me. Want me to drain the tearducts. Make sure I have reddened eyes wherever I go.

I knew I had multiple meetings and calls to deal with today…a long day, one of negotiating with parents and students and making a stand and having to back it up with consequences. I get tired of that sometimes. Even with your own kids, there are times when you just give up on whatever you’ve decided is important and you move on. Pick a new battle. But being a teacher means you have to REALLY do it. Like BIG. This year, we’ve been tough about homework…the thing is, if you slack off on the consequences, they figure it out quickly…there’s no learning from the experience and continuing to DO your homework. They’re always looking for the loophole, the time when I’m too lazy to write down everyone’s name who blew it off. And then taking advantage of that.

So I busted them. You don’t want to know how many of them. We’ll see how that goes. Last time, they did their homework for a while without my bugging them…like maybe three weeks. Grr. So I will do it through until Winter Break, and then I will have to restart the practice after Winter Break, because (a) they will have forgotten that I mean it and (b) Break makes them lazy.

So it was a day of making a stand.

Then I had to deal with groceries (all the stuff the girlchild was too cranky to tell me about yesterday, because she was in a mood) and picking the girlchild up from tryouts and dealing with dinner…plus, because I made a stand, I then had to make sure all the homework was checked in. Yes. I made more work for myself. Or not. I would have had to grade it SOME day…just maybe not today. I really need to learn to use my teachers’ aides…the teacher next door and I now share three of them, but I always forget to use them. Tomorrow? I use their butts. OK. Their minds. And a red pen.

I exercised. I meditated. But more importantly? I sandwiched and pinbasted the damn Love quilt.

It’s not about Love. It doesn’t know what it’s about. Yes it does. It’s about what love might be or might not be and whether certain behaviors show love or just feel like a weight on your shoulders. Sigh. This will be a fun statement to write…knowing that I drew it before all the shit hit the fan, but it’s remarkably psychic.

It’s not a huge quilt. It pinned quickly and easily. My plan is to quilt it during the time we spend at Lake Arrowhead for Thanksgiving. Girlchild cooks, boychild and grandpa read, grandma? Well. We’ll see. I quilt. And read. And hopefully cut out fabric stuff.

Of course, that means I have to finish cutting out all the Wonder Under soon on the Celebrating Silver quilt, and I’m guessing I have another 4 hours, and my Wednesday and Friday nights are already booked, so I don’t know how realistic I’m being. I want to be ironing the pieces down to fabric before we go, so I can take a bunch of that with me. One thing I do know is that if I don’t set goals for myself, I won’t get anything done. I write this blog because it keeps me focused on my goals…my art goals and my personal goals. I try to keep everything progressing…if I spend an hour a school night working on art and then some additional hours during the weekend and a shitload of hours during vacations, I get it done. I’m rocking the art this year…getting lots of it done. YES. It’s filler for a shitty-feeling, often empty-feeling life, but it’s still art and it’s good and it will save my world, even if it doesn’t save anyone else’s. That’s all I can hope for…my own salvation…from myself, honestly.

My meditation has changed its focus slightly, talking about an underlying desire to want things to be different than the way they are. Wow. Read my mind much? It talks about achieving a natural state of ease with the brain instead of always fighting it, of mastery of the brain.Yes. That. Please help. I want that. I’m already so much better with my job, with my brain at work, even though I am constantly fighting depression there, grief, waves of sadness. Frustration, yes, but I don’t carry it home any more.

By the end of the day, I had given myself time to process and create and achieve and meditate and exercise and even read for pleasure, and my brain was thankful. Still a bastard on occasion, certainly not behaving for large swathes of time tonight, having random-ass conversations with itself that do nothing but hurt. But I could look at that quilt pinned together and think…”Yes. That. That will save Kathy’s world. That is the reason. Right there.” And hopefully that will help me sleep better tonight. If not, at least I have one more instance of my ability to get out of bed in the morning and face all the stupid shit without climbing back under the covers or pitching a fit in a Starbucks or losing it in my classroom. And not just getting up, but getting up and making stuff that IS me, SHOWS me, REFLECTS me…which is a lot more than many people can do. (see, I said I was thankful without using that word.) It’s another way of making a stand. Yes, life can fuck me over, people can try to screw me up (or do it without trying, more likely), but I can make a stand and not let their shit throw me completely down…and even if it does, and it feels like it does over and over again, then I just keep getting up, planting my feet, putting my hands on my hips, and making that face, that stubborn face. This is my work. This is who I am. I will keep making art no matter what. It IS me. It SHOWS me. It REFLECTS me. Over and over again.